It’s Wednesday! I don’t know why it is, but Wednesdays are notoriously difficult. Create a welcoming environment for your husband to come home to at the end of the day. A few ideas for creating such an environment include: having his preferred evening drink ready, putting out a tray of his favorite appetizers, lowering the lights, turning on his favorite music, and making sure the house is tidy.
Ben has been working late most nights lately and having dinner in his office. To make him feel welcome at the end of the day, the main thing I try to do is to have everything as calm and peaceful as possible so he's not walking into a crisis zone. Tonight I had all three kids in the pajamas when he got home, everything tidy, trash can brought in from the curb, and some mediocre lemon cake I made earlier in the day waiting for him for dessert. I was feeding the twins when he came in and as soon as one would finish, he scooped up that baby, burped him, changed him, and put him to bed. And seemed really happy to do it. He even took Caleb with him to the babies' room. Then he got Caleb his bedtime snack, read him his stories, and put him to bed. (Of course Caleb was out of bed 12 times after that and eventually slept on the floor of our room, but that's another story.)
It's amazing how these seemingly small things can make the entire environment in our house better. The time spent during the day thinking about doing something nice for Ben when he gets home, or even while he's at work (I emailed him my list of ten directly during the work day) is good for me and makes me feel so appreciative of what he's doing for our family by working, and for who he is as a person, husband, and father. The time spent talking with the kids about what we're going to do for daddy when he gets home, e.g. keep the living room clean, eat dessert, etc. shows Caleb that I am considerate of his dad, the way Ben responds to these things, while not the point of this challenge, are wonderful for me and for all of us as well. It's just been great, overall. I'm so glad I'm doing this.